Shirley Ruth (Robzen) Nestler

July 14, 1930 ~ June 22, 2020 (age 89)

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Shirley Nestler passed away peacefully on June 22, 2020 in Barco, North Carolina.  Born July 14, 1930 in Kingston, she was the daughter of the late Ben and Celia Robzen. 

Shirley was a graduate of Kingston High School and Penn State University.  She then worked for an interior designer in New York City until she married her husband Irwin Nestler. Moved to  Maryland to work and raised their Daughter. Retired to Asheville NC. Shirley was a member of the former Anshe Emes synagogue.  
Shirley is preceded in death by her eldest brother Leonard Robzen, and her parents.  

She is survived by her loving husband Irwin, and their daughter Erika Nester, Portsmouth, VA, as well as brothers Sidney, and wife Esther, and Jerry Robzen, and wife Hannah, and sister in law Florence Robzen, all of Kingston, as well as many nieces, nephews, family and friends.  

There will be no local shiva.   Current health regulations makes this prohibitive, In leu of a shiva to honor her memory please donate in her honor to on of the following what ever resonates with you.  


July 14, 1930 – June 22,2020 Her beautiful spirit left her earthly bonds.
As I am not good with writing things like this, I am going to go with how I would describe her.
My mother never met a stranger she would striking up a conversation with strangers at the next table or someone on the street. She loved to talk to children. I think this is because she had a child had an innocent child’s out look on life. Always seeing the best in people, always seeing the good in the world. She never gave evil power. She would not acknowledge it or allow it into existences. Certainly, would shut down a conversation or situation if it were to become negative or derogatory to others.
Strength of a Warrior: 28-year Battle with cancer from 1992; to 2020.
My mother attended and Graduated from Penn State at a time when many women did not go to college. As young Single woman in the early 1950s she had the courage to move to New York City. Making a bold choice, She took a job at Premier Furniture company to assist buyers with interior design. Knoll Furniture had a long history of collaborations, with pioneering modernists to bold contemporary designers.
My mother’s passion was Art and supported the Arts. Growing up in DC was perfect, mom loved to take me to museums, Art shows, and all styles of live preforming arts.
Grace and Manors: Beautiful, Graceful always said the right things. Did the right things. Little miss Emily Post combined with Pauli anna. She always sent had written thank your cards, remembered everyone birthday and anniversary. She always had it pulled together (LOL unlike me) My favorite line from mom was I am not leaving the house with you looking like that! ME: Mom where are my chuck Taylor High tops. Mom: you mean those ragged things I through in trash that stink like the barn. Me: cool thanks I will go get them and be ready to leave soon. That is how it went between the two of us.
Compassionate, Selfless: Though all her challenges she was more concerned for others. Never complained or spoke about her struggles or worries. She could listen to your thoughts and concerns and show compassion. She wanted to hear about everyone’s family life.
Unconditional Love: When my parent Chose to adopt me in 1963. They loved me before I was ever born. The had no idea if my birth mom was having a boy or a girl. If I was going to be health or not. They knew they were going to give a baby a beautiful the best they knew how.
My mom loved all her nieces and nephews she would always see their true potential, encouraging them to reach for the stars. We could be anything we wanted to be. She always knows the right thing to say to make you feel special and gifted.
She has the patience of a saint! For those of us with leaning, physical, or mental challenges. Letting us vent, working with us step by step. Encouraging us to do our absolute best. Letting us know how much we are loved.
She also used to say she was so lucky because she has the most loving family (Both sided ) that anyone could ever have.
How bless to be the daughter of such an incredibly special woman.

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